12 Days of Christmas: 10
10 Lords a Leaping
On the tenth day of Christmas my true love gave to me…modern day dating! Have you heard of this concept called “cuffing season?” Urban dictionary explains it like this: “During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship.” So, where does this desire come from? As someone who spends a large chunk of the year perfectly content with pursing my career goals and not having to share a bathroom I have a couple of theories. The holidays are all about tradition and family and showing up for the annual “Matching Christmas Pajama Brunch” without a plaid-clad spouse and mini-me year after year can start to feel a little lonely.
It might seem like the easiest way to fill that void is to jump on a dating app and desperately search until you find a Mr. Suitable to bring home for Christmas to help you dodge the “how are you still single?” and the “your sister is pregnant…again!” comments. But before you resort to these measures take a second to take stock of the situation. Mr. Suitable might help you dodge those questions and give you someone to hold hands with while you ice skate (wait-I’m not the only one who secretly loves that part of Hallmark movies am I??) but is he someone you’re still going to want around when the snow starts to melt in the spring? You are a strong, independent, and beautiful child of God every month of the year- not just the warm months! So, let this serve as your friendly Christmas reminder that you are enough, that’s right- single, engaged, married, divorced, or whatever relationship state you’re in, you are enough! Your family and friends will be more excited to see you single and fabulous and flourishing then dragging along someone who’s only purpose is to hold a place!
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