I wouldn’t consider myself a chick flick aficionado, but I do love a good romantic comedy. While I do enjoy a good action film or a mystery movie, every so often, I like watching a movie where you know there’s going to be a happy ending. A couple of weeks ago, I decided to binge a bunch of them. Some of them, I was able to look past the cheesiness and thought they were actually quite adorable. However, there was a running theme I saw in the movies. For the most part, the major romantic conflict in each movie could have been solved by one thing: communication.
I cannot tell you how many times the romantic conflict came up because one of the major characters overheard something and jumped to conclusions. While a couple of the movies had the couple address the issue pretty quickly, so many of them prolonged the conflict, having one of the major characters make a massive life changing decision simply because of what they thought they heard. Seriously?!?!?!
However, I do have to wonder how many times we do something similar in life. Now, I’m pretty positive most of us haven’t experienced this due to our lives being the plot of a romantic comedy (If you have, may I suggest talking to a screenwriter?) But how many times have we misinterpreted something and started going down a bad train of thought? How many times have we started assuming how someone thinks and then adjusting our words and behavior based on that perception?
It may seem like an obvious statement, but communication is important in any relationship: romantic, professional, friend or family. Communication can help professionally, allowing for clear understanding of expectations for work efforts. Communication can sometimes help end arguments and clear up disagreements in personal relationships. When we have a full, accurate picture of events, it can help us make better decisions.
Believe me, I am not trying to talk about this like I am totally innocent. I can be the queen of jumping to conclusions and making assumptions! I try to temper these leaps in my head, but they still happen. And I know that in many instances, I can clear them up by just asking a question or having a conversation.
Not only can communication clear up any misinterpretations and misconceptions, it can also bring us closer to others. Sharing in activities can be a great bonding experience, but being able to have an open and honest conversation can really strengthen a bond. Sharing thoughts and feelings with another person can be terrifying. It’s easy to worry what they may think of our thoughts and feelings. But being able to talk to a trusted individual can help so much. Sharing one another’s burdens can makes this world feel less lonely. Sharing ideas can allow someone to provide good insight into our lives and possibly provide a different perspective when needed. Sharing thoughts and feelings also helps us learn who people are and helps them learn about us.
Communication is not only important in human relationships, but it’s important in a relationship with God as well. God loves for us to talk with Him. 1 Peter 3:12a says that “For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer…” Prayer allows us to share our thoughts and feelings with God. Even though He knows what’s in our hearts, acknowledging them before Him helps draw us to Him and when we draw close to Him, we can learn more about who He is. It can help us to stop jumping to conclusions about how He operates and help us learn how He speaks.
I know in many situations and relationships, and even in a relationship with God, it can be easier to remain silent on things, just making assumptions of how things will go. But when we are open and are willing to communicate, we can gain a better grasp of situations and of who God and others truly are.